Melancholic depression: between submission and voluntarism

Abstract

From the obverse of this situation, we observe other elements not described by the psychoanalytic clinic of melancholy. And is that the melancholic patient, who is subjected and exploited, enters the relationship of couple with a secret weapon: He/she has the ability to separate sexual desire from love and, he/she can perfectly love his partner without wishing him or, stay in a relationship without love and with some desire, but giving commitment in exchange for affection and recognition. He/she will be unfaithful with the imaginary characters of your fantasy, when he/she access or propose a sexual relationship with the imaginary placed in another scene. Already in his youthful sexual life the depressed patient enters into relationships where, from the outset, the infeasibility of love is assured (by the existence of a third person, by the impossibility of consummating the relationship, by agreed-upon agreements of non-commitment, etc.) and where only desire has a place. In other words, enter into relationships without being in love, just thinking about preventing annulment.