A Single Session with Mother Who reframed her Daughter’s Dating Relationship

. (cid:1) In this case, IP had been absent a high school for a few days, after she troubled with her boyfriend. Then, her mother came to see school counselor (SC). The mother said, “I hope my daughter to break up her boyfriend”. However, if mother told IP to do so, she argued that her mother did not understand her at all, and did not listen to her mother. SC formulated a bad circle as described above. Then, SC emphasized that IP is kind and great, and her mother appreciate them. SC told the mother how excellent she was and intervened “please send a message to her that you really understand your daughter’s feeling.” After the session, the mother changed how to approach her daughter. Then her reaction was also changed, and they peacefully talked to each other. After all, IP started smoothly to go to school again. The mother regarded that the relationship between her and her boyfriend was complementary communication which means that her boyfriend is in one-up position to control her and her position is one-down. After the session, however, the relationship established in the mother changed into meta-complementary communication which means that the position of IP and her boyfriend seems to be one-up and one-down, respectively. After all, mother could give them the choice to break up or not. And she changed interacting with her daughter, IP started to go to school again.