Psychotherapy is broadly concerned with secrets. Often our clients bring us things which they have never told anyone, subjects they have felt unable to broach. What happens in the relationship when a secret is uncovered? In this article, I discuss how one's secrets finally being uncovered can invoke shame. However, the shame of being seen in a new way can also create an opening that allows for a deeper intersubjective experience to unfold. Using Sartre's concept of the gaze of the other alongside Merleau-Ponty's ideas of dehiscence, visibility/invisibility and intertwining, I explore the meaning of secrecy, guilt and shame for both therapist and client within the therapeutic relationship.
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Many individuals who have been through transition struggle to obtain the necessary medical and psychological support. This paper explores the importance of psychological support for post-transition individuals. In my experience, there is a subgroup of patients who struggle to come to terms with life post-transition, particularly the losses involved. They remain stuck in the mourning process. There is a loss of fantasies regarding an ideal transition, and the gap between the hoped-for transition outcomes and the post-transition reality can be painfully large. In addition, issues that the transition was meant to address remain in some form for some people, and they may also be haunted by misgivings about how the transition occurred. This paper employs a heavily anonymised composite case to illustrate and elaborate on how these issues emerged and were dealt with in the context of a psychotherapeutic process. Working through issues that led to transition and grievances about perceived and actual failures in care from the past allowed the patient to mourn the loss of her pre-transition image. The patient was able to come to terms with the reality of her transfer from male to trans-female and her body and life post-transition and to shift from a preoccupation with the past to move on with her life.
{"title":"Mourning the Loss of the Ideal Self: Short-Term Work with a Trans Patient Post-Transition","authors":"Marcus Evans","doi":"10.1111/bjp.12915","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1111/bjp.12915","url":null,"abstract":"<p>Many individuals who have been through transition struggle to obtain the necessary medical and psychological support. This paper explores the importance of psychological support for post-transition individuals. In my experience, there is a subgroup of patients who struggle to come to terms with life post-transition, particularly the losses involved. They remain stuck in the mourning process. There is a loss of fantasies regarding an ideal transition, and the gap between the hoped-for transition outcomes and the post-transition reality can be painfully large. In addition, issues that the transition was meant to address remain in some form for some people, and they may also be haunted by misgivings about how the transition occurred. This paper employs a heavily anonymised composite case to illustrate and elaborate on how these issues emerged and were dealt with in the context of a psychotherapeutic process. Working through issues that led to transition and grievances about perceived and actual failures in care from the past allowed the patient to mourn the loss of her pre-transition image. The patient was able to come to terms with the reality of her transfer from male to trans-female and her body and life post-transition and to shift from a preoccupation with the past to move on with her life.</p>","PeriodicalId":54130,"journal":{"name":"British Journal of Psychotherapy","volume":"40 4","pages":"484-502"},"PeriodicalIF":0.5,"publicationDate":"2024-07-29","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/bjp.12915","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"142435817","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":0,"RegionCategory":"","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"OA","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}